Each of you, however, should love [agape] his wife as himself, and let every wife respect her husband. Eph 5:33
When St Paul wrote these words 2000 years ago he was keenly aware of the differences between the sexes and so he deliberately gave husbands and wives different instructions on how to live a successful marriage.
Like many of your sexual differences, these traits are not exclusive. Women like to be respected and men also like to be cherished. The differences occur in the relative importance of these two modes of expressing love. Just as you have two hands, but only one hand, (either your right or your left) is the preferred or dominant one; likewise with your experience of love. Most men predominantly experience love in the context of respect and secondarily in the context of being cherished. For most women the reverse is true; she experiences love more powerfully in the form of cherishment, and secondarily as respect.